The 5 Habits for Extreme Happiness
5 Habits For Extreme Happiness
Have you ever wondered what you could do to bring about a higher level of contentment, dare I say, happiness, to your life? So have I. I was in a deep funk 2 years ago and decided to do something about it. Permanently. This is what I discovered.
When you are consistently, extremely grateful, I mean practicing gratitude like it’s an Olympic, extreme sport, going all out, you have no choice but to experience happiness. When you are walking anywhere, in the house, on the street in your office, take a moment to realize that you are walking above the ground, not buried below it. I started to do this after I turned 50 when I became more aware of my mortality, realizing for the first time that this life will not last forever, I am so, so grateful I am still here. I get to still do what I want to do and make a difference in some small way every day. That makes me feel really grateful.
Try to do something you’ve never done before, get really frustrated because it’s new and then figure it out. Gratitude beyond your wildest dreams. Last week I was implementing a new marketing system for my business with a platform I had never used before. It was not intuitive at all and I was emailing customer support every five minutes. I was frustrated, crying, ready to give up, lamenting at how stupid I am, and then after 2 days. Bam. After my thousandth email to customer support and a Facebook support group keeping me from taking my own life, I figured the damn thing out. I can’t tell you what a sense of gratitude I felt. Relief, gratitude, an exhilaration that I can only compare to what it might feel like to win the lottery. It was a real high and it lasted many days. That sense of accomplishment and gratitude for figuring out something that seemed impossible.
- Random Act of Kindness
I’ve noticed that when I give a gift to someone for no special reason that they don’t expect, it brings me so much joy. Much more than if I were the recipient of the gift. That’s why Oprah used to give away cars and other small items on her show. Because she said she felt so happy making other people so happy. It works. And even if the person you give something to doesn’t express appreciation, you will still feel a sense of contentment knowing that you did something kind for someone with no expectation for something in return. Even a thank you.
I used to not be able to meditate. Could not sit there for even five minutes just breathing. It was torture. Then someone introduced me to Deepak Chopra and Oprah 21—day meditations. This changed my life. I sear to God. The way these two guide you through a meditation makes it so easy. And what they say blows you away. It turned around a decades old mild depression for me into a long lasting uplifting of spirit that I did not think was possible for me.
By this I don’t mean going to the gym and running on the treadmill for 2 hours, although if that makes you happy by all means. I mean do something with movement that exhilarates you. For me, that is ballroom dancing. I denied myself this pleasure for so long because it is an expensive hobby to do on a regular basis. But when I realized I was denying myself something that was part of me. I said “What am I waiting for? Until I can’t do it and then regret not doing it?” So I signed up at a place near my house and it’s the highlight of my week. So what does that for you? Yoga? Playing tennis? Taking a hike? Whatever it is, and you know what it is for you, do it. It totally rewires your brain to new circuitry of happiness.
So if you want to incorporate these habits into your daily routine over a span of 21 days in a row, they will become easier to do and you will automatically experience a heighted and happier way of being.
And please remember to live insatiably, forgive lavishly and love ferociously…especially yourself.